Monday, 19 November 2012
How does one know if a relationship is based on love and is worth developing?
No one has the final word on love, but consider the following points in deciding if you really love someone :
1. Does he/she bring joy to your heart when
you think of him/her?
2. Do you want to make him/her happy?
3. Will you love him/her for what he/she is
and not try to change him/her? Will you let
him/her be as he/she is and not what you
want him/her to be?
4. Young people tend to fall in love with
their ideal of love. This means that one
has their ideal of a Prince Charming who
is really a toad. Not all Prince Charmings
are toads, and not all toads are Prince
5. DON'T FORGET YOUR SELF WORTH. How does he
treat you - like a treasure or someone to
These points should give you a fairly good opportunity to see what kind of relationship you are in.
A relationship without trust won't last. What is the source of this mistrust? Does he look at other women when you are out together in public?
Dreams can prepare you for a relationship that may be coming to an end. They will tell you something is wrong. If your partner is showing less affection toward you, you must decide whether to try to patch up the relationship or let it go.
Think of your dreams as advisers. They may point out problems and offer solutions, but consider all the facts before deciding on any important issue. Especially watch people's daily behavior toward you. Your dreams may suggest what behavior to look out for, but don't break up a relationship without some physical evidence to back up your suspicions.
No matter what happens with this relationship, try to be a greater channel for divine love. Love will overcome suspicion, which can destroy any relationship.
Love is blind and probably always will be. The only way to find out anything in life is to go ahead and get the experience. Nothing is ever lost. Each experience can teach us valuable lessons about ourselves, painful though they may be.
~ Spiritual Wisdom on Relationships by Harold
"Love is hard because we make it so. The uncertainty about being loved shapes the way we act towards others. Some of us are rebellious to the things that our families hold dear. Others of us go to another extreme. We love and nurture others to the neglect of our own well-being. Time often gets us back on track, though.
So what can you do to get back on track as soon as possible and be happy?
One cannot buy love through caring for and nurturing others. Those two qualities can be of the real kind if they come from someone who is a magnet for love...you must consciously open your heart to God's love, which is always and forever flowing out to you like a quiet mountain stream.
You probably came into this lifetime with a particular goal. And that goal was to learn the secret of life.
God is love.
But you probably knew that already. So what's keeping you from truth? It's the realization, not the knowledge. Knowledge is just a mental thing. But it's the realization that you are Soul. That you are worth something. Because God loved you first.
You exist because of God's love. So does your neighbor. And if your neighbor needs help and you can give it, you are also helping yourself.
We're so busy just with the survival of our human self that we sometimes forget to be grateful for the very dear things in our lives - our loved ones, our mates and our children, our parents, and our brothers and sisters.
Soul yearns to return home to God. Home to God means the area of supreme divine love that has no conditions attached to it : unconditional love.
I think it is very important in this life to learn to love someone more than yourself. Whether it's another person or a pet. And before you can love someone else more than yourself, you begin by first loving yourself. Loving yourself doesn't mean to have a high, egotistical regard for yourself or go strutting around like some dictator. It means to have respect for yourself as Soul, as a child of God, because once you recognize yourself as Soul, as one of these beings of God, you've made an important step in your spiritual unfoldment.
Love is the goal, then, of our spiritual search. The way to God is ever within the heart, within the loving heart. "
~ Spiritual Wisdom on Relationships by Harold Klemp